When I was a young woman in my 20s, I would look forward to warm, sunny weekend days because I could pay a visit to one of my favorite places — the Reflection Riding Arboretum and Nature Center in Tennessee. It was a lovely private park, with nature trails, roads, secret passageways and boardwalks where guests could explore and reconnect with nature. It was not unusual to see people riding their horses there, or staff giving tours to young children about the importance of nature, or a guest stopping and admiring the beauty of a tree, flower or a deer. To me, this place had a more spiritual connection because it was one of a few places where I felt that I could connect with God.
The other day I was reading a news article about former First Lady Michelle Obama in which she admitted that she struggled with “Imposter Syndrome,” and that it never quite goes away. She struggled to believe why anyone would listen to her, because she was just a girl from the South Side of Chicago.
According to Time Magazine, Imposter Syndrome is when a person thinks they are successful because of dumb luck and not because they are capable. A person might feel like a fraud or doubt their own education, skills and talents. An estimated 70 percent of people struggle with Imposter Syndrome at some point, according to Time Magazine.
Michelle Obama revealed struggling with her own worth during a tour for her book, Becoming — a memoir and analysis of her life from childhood, to the White House. Obama is married to former U.S. President Barack Obama, who served the nation from 2009 to 2017.
As I read the article about Obama, I had to admit that I also struggled with Imposter Syndrome — not just in my personal life, but in my Christian life as well. I worked as a journalist and then a professor. Sometimes I wondered if what I wrote mattered to readers. And as a professor, I wondered if I had anything good to teach students. I also felt the same way as a Christian, wondering if I had anything meaningful to share with unbelievers, Christians in a crisis or just regular people I encountered at church or religious activities. I did not feel holy enough or saintly enough to be of service.
I believe that other women struggle with the same Imposter Syndrome in their Christian walk and perhaps they allow this anxiety to interfere with the call on their lives. Sometimes God calls us to do things for Him and we look at where we were, instead of what God is calling us to do for Him. We see the mountain and forget that if we have enough faith we can tell it to move out of our way. Take heart ladies, even if you don’t feel up to the task or unworthy, if God calls you to do something it is because he deems your heart is ready. I am sure we have all heard the saying that God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called.
The Bible is filled with examples of the faithful who were reticent to take on a task or who had some fear in their heart. I do not know if Joshua felt something akin to Imposter Syndrome when God called him to lead the Israelites into the Promised Land, but the word that God sent him, is medicine to any soul who feels like they are imposters in their faith and therefore cannot work for the Most High. God knows us better than we know ourselves. He defines us. He loves us. He trains our hearts. Look what he said to Joshua as he led the people:
“ Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.”
— Joshua 1:9
So, the next time you feel like a Christian Imposter, or an Imposter at work or at school, look to God to show you and tell you who you are and for your strength. And remember that God is with you always.
Be blessed ladies. Have a wonderful week and Happy New Year.
I hope that everyone had a wonderful week. This week, I wanted to share story with you about spiritual growth — and how it sneaks up on you when you least expect it. I will tell you the story using my garden as an example.
In late spring I started a garden. I bought seedlings of plants and vegetables. My husband bought flowers and we planted them together in the garden beds. Everything looked neat and pretty, but nothing was growing. I bought a few tomato seedlings. I bought a few cucumbers, melons, zucchini, herbs, and berries and lettuce. Each day I would go out and check on the garden and then I would water it. I had hoped that I would have some lovely red tomatoes by the end of June. But I didn’t even have a flower bud. There were no cucumbers. Birds ate most of the unripe strawberries and blue berries and there wasn’t a broccoli floret or brussels sprout in sight! I kept watering and caring for the garden, even though I didn’t always want to do it. Still, no progress.
But then something amazing happened when I didn’t even see it. I had to go on a trip. When I returned less than two weeks later, you would not imagine what I found: My lettuce grew so much that I couldn’t possibly eat it all in a week. The kale grew too and had yellow flower buds on it; the blueberries were nearly ripe and the strawberries glistened and there were still some berries on the vine. I found a cucumber growing. There were tomatoes, lots of tomatoes. They were not ripe, but the green fruit was an indication of what could be a great summer harvest.
So here in lies the message. Sometimes in our faith walk, we do the work to being closer to God. We set aside time to pray to God and to meditate on his word. We live out our faith when no one is looking. We seek to serve the church and live our lives as if God and his angels are watching us (they are by the way and our friends and families too). We work in our communities to serve as the church because some of the people we interact with my never enter a church or get to know God until they see Him in us. We may also feel tired of doing work that may seem thankless. But it is not. When we least expect it or are about to give up the good work, we see a surprising amount of spiritual growth and great fruit that has developed that one day others can enjoy. In the book of Philippians, it says that God, who began a great work — us — will complete that work. We must trust that he will help us along the road to spiritual maturity and that we too will bear a garden of fruit. But we must also tend to our spiritual gardens believing that the Master Gardener knows and sees all and is helping us. In John 15:2 we learn that God is the best gardener — that he cuts off the branches in us that does not bear fruit and in the branches that do give forth fruit, he prunes them too — so that we may become more fruitful in our Christian lives. And all of our hard work and God’s pruning leads to the ultimate gift — a life with Him in heaven. Let us not be weary in growing closer to God and following the example of Christ!
So this week as you run or walk, think about how much you have grown. Don’t just focus on muscle tone or running distance, think about who you were before you knew God and how much you have grown in your faith. Think about your body, crafted by God, that moves quickly and with purpose. Think of the ways you have been blessed and how the fruit of your life can be used to bless others. Try this running meditation from the book of Philippians: “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”
Have a wonderful week!
Taking in the beauty of God …
I forget about the beauty of God’s creation when I am angry, distracted or hurt.
I also forget that in His beauty, I find peace.
But when I remember this beauty and this peace, it is always as if we meet for the first time. This is how I felt this week while hiking in Ericeira with my family.
The sun was strong and the air crisp. And as I followed a path in the sand, I remembered how something simple could bring me such peace. This walk, this reflection on God brought me peace and comfort. It was self-care because exercise is good for me; but God took care of me as I meditated on His word and His beauty.
As I walk and meditate I know that there is a lot of evil and ugly in this world. But centering on God, I understand that His beauty overcomes this world and it brings light to the abyss. It is OK to forget about beauty when distracted, but when we refocus, we remember the beauty in the world, the beauty of a simple beach walk and the beauty of the sun on your brow. The beauty of God and His creation is available for all to see.
If you find yourself distracted, or angry or sad or even hurting, remember that in the midst of suffering there is God-given joy and that there is beauty in His peace. You can step away from the hurt to have peace in a walk, the smell of a flower, a glimpse of the blue sky or a midnight view of the constellations. Remember God created us — he crafted your eyes and your smile — just as he knit you together in your mother’s womb.
Remember to enjoy the beauty of God; Meditate on His words and His promises to you. Appreciate the Master Craftsman and His wonderful works.
A wonderful praise for a meditation walk is Psalm 19, verses 1-11:
The Heavens are telling the glory of God;
they are a marvelous display of his craftsmanship.
Day and night they keep telling about God.
Without a sound or a word, silent in the skies, their message reaches out to all the world.
The sun lives in the heavens where God placed it and moves out across the skies as radiant as a bridegroom going to his wedding or as joyous as an athlete looking forward to a race! The sun crosses the heavens from end to end and nothing can hide from its heat.
God’s laws are perfect. They protect us, make us wise and give us joy and light. God’s laws are pure, eternal and just. They are more desirable than gold.
Dear ladies, have a wonderfully blessed week and delight in God’s love and creation!
A few months ago, I ran another half marathon. Every time I run a long race, it is as though I can feel God sending me a word of encouragement. I would like to share with you ladies two things I learned when I ran the half marathon in Mainz, Germany two months ago: Don’t look back; and don’t keep looking at your watch to find your pace!
First, lets start with not looking back. The half marathon took place on a cool May morning in Mainz a lovely city on the Rhein River. I ran the race with my friend Kim, and this was her first half-marathon. When we arrived for the race, we noticed that there were thousands of people running and we were at the end of the line. We were so far back that we ran nearly 10 minutes before getting to the start line! As we began the race, we noticed were still at the end and we weren’t passing anyone. We kept a steady pace, but every now and then I would notice my friend checking her watch. I would tell her not to check her timing or messages, that I would let her know our pace and that we were doing just fine. We were not in it to win it – we just wanted to finish!
I noticed a couple near us – they too seemed to be running their first race. The man kept looking back to see who was behind him. Sometimes, he spent so much time looking back that he didn’t seem to pay attention to where he was going and he fell down. He seemed so concerned with who was behind him that he couldn’t see where he was going. This immediately reminded me of the Biblical story of Lot’s wife in the bible. In Genesis Chapter 19, we learn that Lot and his family were fleeing Sodom (and Gomorrah) and they were warned not to look back, or risk being turned into a pile of salt. Lot’s wife looked back and turned into a pile of salt. I also see another deeper lesson in this — that sometimes when we are running the race of life, and look back, we can fall because we focus on the past and not the present.
The same thing happens when we look at the time and doubt God’s promises to us because we are older or we have been waiting for years. Looking at a watch can cause anxiety when you run because you fear you are not going fast enough. When it comes to our faith walk, we might also be focused on time because we fear that God won’t keep his promises to us. As Christians we must trust that everything will be in God’s timing and he is in charge of the life watch. I share this message with you today because I have been guilty of looking back. I have also been guilty of checking the time to see how I am doing based on my timeline and not God’s perfect timing. I must trust God to take care of the time for me and to make the path ready for me to run it.
It is my hope, dear ladies, that you too, run your race with God in such a way that you do not get tripped up by looking at the past, or checking your watch to see how fast you are going. If we trust in Him, and follow His plan for our lives, then we can be sure that God will take care of the time, so that we can focus on the race. Have a wonderfully blessed day.
I ran the marathon with Kimberly Lecar, a broadcaster and Christian singer/song writer. I am proud to announce that Kim is doing the audiobook for Running For Your Life! which will be available for sale right before Christmas. Thanks Kim for being a great running partner and friend!
One day my toddler daughter was fussing. She was unhappy about something and she began to complain. She wanted me to change my mind and do what she wanted or needed in that moment. A relative, who noticed this pattern in my daughter, looked as us both and said, “She is a lion. I feel sorry for you. My daughter was a lion.” My relative’s statement was to let me know that raising a lion would be tough for me. That lions required extra care because they are both stubborn, strong and sometimes too resourceful for their own good.
My relative’s comments alarmed me. But then I had felt comforted by them as years went on because I discovered something wonderful. I was a lion too. I do not know how many of you have heard of personality tests, but there is one that gives people the characteristics of certain animals. The animals are lion, otter, beaver and golden retriever. I had lived most of my life like a golden retriever. I can’t say I was happy with that, I just thought that was what I had to do survive growing up and what it meant to be an adult. A golden retriever has lovely characteristics: calm, easy going, dependable, quiet and humorous (weirdblog wordpress website, 2015). But I was no retriever! I had forced myself to hide my inner roar. But once I realized my inner lion, my life began to change – so I guess there is a lot to say about those who are true to themselves and work being the person God intends them to be. There is a famous Shakespearean quote from Hamlet, “To thine own self be true,” that applies here. Lions are strong-willed, independent, decisive, leaders, and practical. We lions have some crappy characteristics too: domineering, unforgiving, cold and my least favorite – unemotional self-sufficient (weirdblog, 2015). Ouch! It is no coincidence that when I could embrace the good and bad about myself that I could better navigate through life. Why be an otter, when you are meant to be a beaver? Do you, girlfriend, do you!
So, I write this message not to give you a lesson on psychology, but to point out that we all have different personality traits, yet God uses this diversity for his glory. And there is something else I need to point out: when it comes to our faith walk – we are all lions! God will equip an undisciplined otter to get that sermon written or to change the music for Sunday service. He teaches the cold lion the importance of warmth and reaching out to people not in your strength, but in your weakness. The quiet golden retriever learns to speak loudly like a lion when they see injustice in their neighborhoods or churches. And the negative, self-centered beaver becomes positive when sharing the gospel and concerned about the poor and hurting in their communities. It is no wonder we can be like lions in God’s kingdom, we are, followers of Christ Jesus, the original lion king.
This week, may you think about how God has equipped you to do amazing things – things you never would have thought you could do – but were able to do through the strength, love and mercy of Christ. Have a wonderfully blessed day.
For more information about the animal personality test, check out this link: https://weirdblog.wordpress.com/2007/02/22/personality-types-lion-beaver-otter-and-golden-retriever/
Hello runners and walkers! I wanted to share a story with you this week about not giving up when people think what you are going after is so out of your reach or just not possible. I hope to do that with a story about a man who believed that God called him to do something amazing, even though people doubted that such a man could follow God’s call.
I recently visited the city of Avignon France, a town that became famous in 1300s because it was a papal residence. The town houses an impressive stone fortress that served as the Popes home and court. It has quaint cobble stone streets, plentiful green spaces and much charm. Buried in the town’s history is a story about a shepherd boy named Benezet. If measured by today’s standards, Benezet would be considered strange, possibly mentally ill. He wasn’t clean and probably did not have great people skills. But none of that matters. You see, Benzet loved God. He believed that God spoke to him and gave him a charge: build a bridge across the Rhone River that would connect one part of Avignon with the other. Benezet told the people of Avignon but they laughed at him – who would lift the stones necessary to build the foundation, they wondered. Many had tried. None were successful. Then at a gathering by the River, as the legend goes, Benezet the townsmen tried to lift or roll a stone to start a bridge. They failed. Along came Benezet, who lifted the foundation stone and tossed it into the river. He was just 21 and had the strength of four men. Some legends say that Benezet built the bridge himself. Other stories say that the town folks, after realizing this was indeed a miracle from God, helped him build the bridge.
Today, the bridge has partially fallen down, but city officials have reinforced it so that it is safe. Tourism officials said that an ice storm destroyed the integrity of the bridge and only one-third of it stands. When you walk on the bridge you can look at the Rhone River and the beautiful landscape of Avignon. But more importantly, as you visit one of the two small chapels on the bridge, you can remember the story of Benezet, a brave man who heard God’s call and acted on it. May we all be so brave!
This week may we focus on the call God has put in our hearts and take courage to act on it. May we build the bridges in our lives that honor Him! I have added a photo of the lovely bridge as a reminder that there is nothing that God cannot do for us and nothing we cannot do if he empowers us to do it. Blessings to you all!
Happy Holidays and Happy Winter!
During the winter, the sun seems to disappear, causing some of us to seek shelter indoors. But running and walking can be just as rewarding during the winter. There are no flowers blooming, but beauty surrounds every step. Dress warmly and don’t forget to stop every now and then on your journey to breathe in the fresh air, the beauty of God’s creation and to offer a prayer or two of thanksgiving.
Be blessed everyone!
Hello ladies. I hope that all is well and that you are having a wonderful week. I do not know if you saw the recent news reports, but TV mogul and talk show host Oprah Winfrey released a list of her favorite things for the 2014 holiday season. Her list is famous because when she hosted a talk show, everyone from her studio audience would go home with the gifts on her fancy list, which would cost thousands of dollars. Oprah no longer hosts a talk show, but she still released a list of her favorite things this holiday season — the 72 items will set you back $13,407, according to media reports. Some of the items include: $400 sunglasses; $1,000 luggage; diamond stud earrings; $400 watch; $500 dog bed; $120 coffee mugs and $700 head phones.
I write about Oprah’s list of favorite things because to some people, receiving one of these gifts would be the best possible gift they could receive this holiday season. But I think it is important that we remember that the best gifts we can receive are free: including the love of God. There are other gifts that are free: hugs from a loved one; smiles from your grandchildren; an act of kindness; a walk with a friend; the word of God. I leave you ladies with a list of my favorite things:
1. God’s love for me;
2. Seeing my daughter smile and giggle;
3. Running on the beach, on a trail or in a park;
4. Walking and enjoying the sound of nature;
5. Studying something you are passionate about;
6. Entertaining friends or family at home;
7. Listening to music;
8. Talking with friends;
9. Reading a book;
10. Eating popcorn with my husband and daughter — with lots of REAL butter;
11. Eating my favorite meal of a salad, French fries, and chocolate cake! Yup. I am a serious about the fries.
Ladies, I encourage you to compile a list of your favorite things this week, so you can go back to it whenever you want to be reminded of important things or if you get caught up in material things instead of wonderful experiences. Have a wonderfully blessed week. Keep running for your life.
At some point in our life we will experience a major loss or setback and become disappointed, stressed, depressed or completely overwhelmed. Sometimes we may think that disappointment should not come our way because we built up a spiritual equity or sorts, and disappointment should knock on someone else’s door. But disappointment visits us all and how we handle it can set the tone for how we handle future disappointments in our lives.
I know disappointment visited King David upon learning he would not build God’s temple. Instead, Solomon his son got the job. If I were David, that message would have stung my soul. David had such faith and truly loved God and served as a living witness to God’s favor and mercy. But David’s hands, although often raised in praise of God, were also stained with the blood of warfare, and thus he could not build God’s temple.
I have also suffered the after effects of disappointment. Sometimes it has been a person or a situation that disappointed me, but nonetheless, I understand that pain and disappointment is unavoidable in life. And even when I think that I have some equity built up – meaning I should be spared major setbacks or disappointments because I am a Christian or seek to live an honorable life ( yeah right!), something happens to disappoint me yet again. Sometimes it literally takes my breath away, others, times, I question my faith and relationship with God, wondering why he didn’t keep me safe from whatever has befallen me. But life does not work that way. God is with us always, even when we walk with disappointment and sadness and if we let him, he can use it to do marvelous things in our lives.
There were times I worked hard to be a good friend to someone, only to feel that it was not reciprocated – that the friendship was just a convenience or strategic alliance. And there were times loved ones disappointed me when they took too much and gave back so little, that I felt spiritually depleted. And then there were my own disappointments on what I should have done or should be doing versus the reality of my life.
Kay Arthur, in her book, As Silver Refined, tells us that sometimes disappointments are actually appointments from God. She said that God will use disappointments for his glory. So instead of feeling discouraged about the job you did not get, be thankful because perhaps God has another job or opportunity for you that would not have happened if you received that promotion. Or perhaps you were not ready and God is still training you or perhaps not getting the job will encourage you to start your own business – which has always been a dream. Better yet, use this disappointment as a ministry opportunity when you mentor others.
I have no easy answers, but what I will say is, people and situations have disappointed me numerous times. I thought being a Christian isolated me from the world and so much disappointment, but that is wrong. Life will not be without pain and disappointment, and we should see ever disappointment as an opportunity to be refined by God – to be called to a better purpose or to let go of those things that prevented us from being closer to Him.
If you struggle with disappointment, know that you are not alone. Read your Bible and pray to God, knowing that he will hear and will answer – in his own time. Being disappointed does not mean you have to let go of your dreams, it just means that the answer is not now. God loves you and works in his own time. If you feel as if you are falling into a depression or sadness, I encourage you to talk to a trusted friend. It also helps to run or walk longer than normal because this will help lift up your spirits. Studies have shown that running (daily aerobic exercise) may be as good for depression as taking medication. So, run, pray, walk, read the Bible and know that God is with you, helping you and he will never leave you. See your disappointment as an opportunity – a way in which you can grow closer to God and allow Him to use you and your pain to help another. Be blessed.